The one thing.
It might be blurry or even indistinguishable (just another word for immature), but it’s there. Based solely on others perceptions of you. Fortunately, these perceptions are formed from sources you control, directly or indirectly. Your online presence, your interactions with friends, colleagues, acquaintances all inform the narrative people get exposed to.
Certainly, there are some facetious spreaders of unkind narratives. They too will drown in the noise if they are an inaccurate reflection.
Your main concern is clarifying your narrative. I really want to connect with you, interesting stranger, I am just not sure where to start.
Drop a hint. Better yet, put up a billboard.
Make it easy for your tribe to find you.