We do this often. We tend to favour an interpretation of reality that is slightly rosy. It’s a good thing. Without a default sunny disposition, we might be quite prone to despondence and lack of interest.
The result is that we think quitting a bad habit will be easier than it actually is. The project will only take a certain amount of time. The effort required will be x. The amount of training for my big event will be y. My ability to find the time required to pursue this goal will be easily manageable.
We end up completing the task, hopefully, but our battle scars are visible. The cost was greater than expected.
We tend to do the same with other people. Here, the culprit is personal bias. We are the hero in our own stories after all. We underestimate the challenges others face, the value they offer, the significance they bring. We even underestimate their abilities.
Imagine a world where I commit to helping others become the heroes I know they have the potential to be. What if we took stock of our approach, and invested some of the vanity thinking in considering the narrative of someone else.
There are powerful stories all around us. Perhaps engaging them will enrich my world.